It’s almost New Year’s Eve and for better or for worse, you’reattending Wednesday night’s countdown party solo. You’resingle. Again. You’ve cried about it, whined about it, andresigned yourself to it, but now you’re ready to become theperson that other people would want to be with.

　　基本上是新年前夜，无论是想变得更好还是更糟，你打算参加周三晚上的单身倒计时晚会。你是孤单的，再一次。你因此而哭泣，还是顺其自然吧，但是现在你准备好成为另一个人想成为的人。

　　Here are 8 resolutions to make if you want to turn things around next year:

　　明年如果你想会转事情，这里有需要下的8条新年决心。

　　1. “I will meet more people”

　　1“我要遇见更多的人”

　　Unless you marry the McDelivery guy, Prince Charming isn’t going to appear on your doorstep.Well, maybe he would if you threw a gigantic dinner party at home with a lot of singles inattendance, but either way, dating is a numbers game, so go meet some new guys. (You too,introverts.) You need to do whatever it takes, even if it means attending a spin class or joiningnature walks from Meetup.com. On that topic…

　　如果你想嫁给马岱立夫小伙，迷人的王子不会主动出现在你的门前。或许他会出现如果你布置了一桌丰盛的晚宴在有许多单身人士的家，但还有一种方式，约会是一个查数的游戏，因此去见一些新的家伙。(你们，性格内向的人)无论花费什么，你们都要去做，即使是一次短途旅行或在大自然中的散步。话题是...

　　2. “I will try unconventional means of dating”

　　2 “我会尝试不正规的约会方式”

　　We’re talking online dating, speed-dating, Tinder, or straight-up hiring a professional matchmaker.Look, there’s no shame in meeting someone through an algorithm. In the grand scheme ofthings, how you met constitutes about 1 per cent of an entire relationship. Who cares whetheryou met your dream guy through a dating coach, rather than on a cross-country tour throughEurope? Happily ever after isn’t defined by how a romance begins, but how it ends.

　　我们在谈论在线约会，速度约会，引火物，或直接雇佣一个专业的符合的人。看通过算计碰见某人没什么羞耻的。事情在很大程度上，你们怎样遇见组成了1%的整个的关系。谁会关心是否你遇见你梦想的家伙通过一次约会训练而不是跨越国家的通往欧洲的旅行?幸福不会被浪漫怎样开始定义，而是以怎样结束。

　　3. “I will let my friends intervene for me”

　　3 “我会让我的朋友干涉我”

　　If you’re still not convinced, then seek help from your most immediate resource: your friends. It’snot easy to admit you need help when you’re so proud of being independent. But these peoplenot only know what you want, but they know your history and who will be good for you. They’veall got brothers, cousins, colleagues, and old friends who are in the same boat. So let down yourdefences and accept the possibility that they’re not just being meddlesome and “kpo”, theyactually do want to see you happy.

　　如果你仍不自信，然后从最直接的资源寻求帮助：你的朋友们。承认你需要帮助不太容易当你骄傲于独立的时候。但是这些人不仅知道你想要什么，而且知道你的历史，谁会适合你。他们都有处于同样境地的兄弟，侄子，同事，和老朋友。因此放下你的防备，接受他们不是爱管闲事的人的可能性，他们实际上是想让你高兴。

　　4. “I will be open”

　　4“我会变得开放”

　　One of the easiest ways to stay single is to enforce shallow dealbreakers. Obviously, you shoulduphold some standards – like, don’t date a drug dealer – but ladies, would you be open to datingsomeone who is three years younger than you? How about someone whose idea of classical musicis a Kenny G cover band? Or how about someone whose sense of style is stuck in the ‘90s? Noneof these traits are attractive, but they’re all superficial. If he’s a good person – loyal, happy,unselfish, willing to change – then know that he’s a diamond amidst a host of “cool” guys withmediocre hearts. It’s a lot easier for someone to change his wardrobe than it is for him to changehis character.

　　最简单的保持单身的方式之一是保持浅显的规则。很明显，你应该拥有一些标准-例如，不和吸毒者约会-但女士，你和小你三岁的人约会持开放态度么?如果有人认为古典音乐即是Kenny G cover乐队会怎么样?或者有人的择偶标准仅仅是90后?这些特点都不吸引人，但他们都是表面意义的。如果他是一个好人——忠诚，幸福，无私，想要改变-然后知道他是冷家伙中拥有一颗平常心的钻石。对于某人来说改变性格比改变衣橱更简单。